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Articles & Exercises

Short articles with practical exercises and meditations for the way.

Relationships

Before You Look for Them: Who Am I When I'm in a Relationship

Before You Look for Them: Who Am I When I'm in a Relationship

There's a question many people ask at night: "why does this keep happening to me?" The same kind of partner, the same distance,…

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Three Breaths Before You Respond: Getting to Know My Patterns in Relationships

Three Breaths Before You Respond: Getting to Know My Patterns in Relationships

The argument started with something small. A cup not put away, a message not answered. And within a second we're inside something…

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Family

Peace with My Parents: Seeing Them, and Seeing Myself

Peace with My Parents: Seeing Them, and Seeing Myself

There's a kitchen, a smell, a sentence someone said thirty years ago. And to this day, when we walk into our parents' home,…

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Family Constellation

Who Sits at My Table: Your Family Lineage and Your Life Now

Who Sits at My Table: Your Family Lineage and Your Life Now

Imagine a large holiday table. Around it sit parents, grandparents. And behind them more generations, whom we may not have known,…

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Is What I Feel Only Mine? On Intergenerational Trauma and What Research Knows

Is What I Feel Only Mine? On Intergenerational Trauma and What Research Knows

Some people live with a sense that something heavy accompanies them, and they can't find its source in their own life. A fear…

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The Inner Child

The Child Within: How to Meet Them, and What They Want to Tell You

The Child Within: How to Meet Them, and What They Want to Tell You

There's a moment like this. Someone says a small sentence, and suddenly we're seven years old. The heart tightens, the throat…

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Inner Parts

The Voices Within: Getting to Know My Parts

The Voices Within: Getting to Know My Parts

There's a debate going on inside. One part says "go ahead, say yes," another whispers "don't you dare," and another simply wants…

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Approaching Pain Slowly: Inner Parts Work and Focusing

Approaching Pain Slowly: Inner Parts Work and Focusing

Some things happened, and we still feel them today. In the body, in reactions, in a fear that jumps in uninvited. And sometimes…

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What Irritates Me in Others: Shadow Work

What Irritates Me in Others: Shadow Work

Some people simply irritate us. His self-confidence, the way she always talks, the arrogance, the weakness. And we ask ourselves…

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Emotional Work

Back to Source: Meeting Who I Am Beneath Everything I Learned to Be

Back to Source: Meeting Who I Am Beneath Everything I Learned to Be

There's an hour in the morning, or in the evening, when the world settles. We stand by a window, and for no reason we feel…

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Meeting Myself: Three Small Questions You Can Ask Every Morning

Meeting Myself: Three Small Questions You Can Ask Every Morning

Many of us can answer "how are you?" without thinking. "Fine, thanks, busy." And beneath that answer is a whole world nobody…

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